like, i would just caption this about how hard i’m laughing, but i’m actually mad
as a woman, as a girl, i am taught that men automatically hate me. we’re taught that they are supposed to tease us and pull our hair on the playground, we’re taught that they only think about sex and that it is normal for them to proposition us at fourteen, that it is expected for them to pass around our nudes and make anonymous accounts dedicated to rating our bodies. we are taught that we need to be careful, because it is normal for them to assault us, and for them to hit us, and boys will be boys, and if we don’t look feminine enough they will hit us and call us slurs, and if we look too feminine they cannot help themselves, and if these things happen to us it is our fault because-
I AM TAUGHT THAT I DESERVE TO BE HATED: by every commercial we see full of thin white models with perfect skin and hair, by advertisements promising to eliminate disgusting stretch marks that we hate ourselves for at twelve, by every magazine with tips for toning and lifting parts of our bodies we didn’t know we had to care about, by every police officer who has ever asked us if we were asking for it, by every job that turned us down because we didn’t look nice enough or we made ourselves too pretty and looked too dumb; by every man who ever joked about women being dumber, slower, weaker, worse drivers. we are taught that when we need help we are needy and crazy; we are taught that when we are passionate we are hysterical; when we are in charge we’re bitches. we are told we are always in competition. we are told to mold every part of our brains and bodies to fit what other people want and we are told this is because we are not good enough on our own!!!
i associate this culture with feeling like shit; with when we are raped and people ask us to retract our accusations because we wouldn’t want to RUIN A MAN’S LIFE, now WOULD WE, with when twelve-year-old girls go on binging diets and when we are paid less for the same work and when there are countless barrages on our self-worth and confidence, when we are literally told to kill ourselves for having hair where it is not acceptable, and when everyone fucking refuses to recognize this.
i hope you read this, anonymous, from months ago. i hope you fucking read this and you think about why your input about how feminism hurts your feelings is not relevant. it does not matter when the thing you are commenting on is a poem titled “FOR THE MEN WHO STILL DON’T GET IT”. why don’t you GET IT, dude?
i am sorry you are sad, hurt, and angry. you have probably never thought that anyone hated you based on your gender before.